a week without post.
I promised i would write an entry about the amazing Monday i went to straight to office/field work coming from a 4-hour travel, lacking sleep and still hung over from the weekend i spent with my husband and my son whom i haven't seen for two weeks.
We still do not have a nanny and husband is the one looking after the kid because in his work he can bring the kid along. Two of them being away gives me time to contemplate and write at home except that this week, i practically spent the nights catching the zzzzz's i lost.
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My work is relatively an easy work. It's the kind that mostly involve coordination. It's a very easy work but it is difficult to explain and most of the time, people who know my work and where i am associated with would rather ask about my pay than the actual work that i do. Most of the time i lie because the truth, I’m afraid, will only embarrass them.
Last february 14, lacking sleep and still groggy from 4-hour bus ride, i went directly to office. I was to join a group on field work. this group is going to conduct road inventory so they can make accurate maps. Field work. I love field work. most of my previous employments involved field work. I practically ate, slept, dreamed, bathed, belched and shit field work since i was a university student.
When I arrived, I saw on every table of other departments little stuffed teddy bears skewered in white plastic sticks along with a plastic red rose, wrapped altogether in a clear cellophane. Happy valentine's day. Our office didn't have any of them because we're wo/men of steel.
I saw Lady 1 wrapped her heart chocolates in opaque plastic and carefully kept them in her drawer,
"I will not eat these," smiling as she announced,
"I will keep this in the fridge when i get home so they won't spoil."
"Are you sure your kids won't eat them?" Lady 2 snapped. Lady 2 was ignored by her husband that valentine morning. She was grumpy as hell and everyone teased her about the non-greeting.
"I will keep them in colored containers where they can't see what's inside."
"Hmmph," was lady 2's answer.
Off to field work we go, and Lady 2 kept complaining about her husband. So dense, he did not show any signs of sweetness in that valentine's morning.
"You might get a surprise of your life when you get home," Lady 1, who is much older, teased her.
"A bed of roses, maybe? and a good romping tonight!"
Everyone laughed.
"Bed of roses?! Hmmph. He can't even remember to greet me!" Lady 2 sulked.
We took the dilapidated office jeep for field work. Dilapidated jeep drove on paved and dirt roads, parting the clouds of dusts. Residents peered from inside the huts as the Dilapidated jeep sped past their little houses. Hens and their little chicks scampered off the road; the sound of a vehicle approaching drove them wild.
Then i missed my childhood.
And the seemingly never ending dirt road across our house. Our old house, the plaza where we learned to make friends, learned to start a fight and learned to fight back, now barely resemble any memory that I have of them.
I read somewhere that “sentimentality is about lies; nostalgia is about memories, and the truths of the past.” I have no I clue what that means except that I always feel sentimental about my childhood. It was the time I learned to create my own world and believe that we weren’t as poor as I thought we were. I guess that means I lied to myself then.
And I get sentimental at wrong times of the day. Or maybe nostalgic. I rarely romanticize memories.
During the snacks the men talked about their wives getting angry over their bad drinking habits and over text mates. One mentioned that these issues will certainly get blown out of proportion because it’s valentine’s day. A lady asked if the men greeted their wives, too. A fellow announced that Lady 1 received 3 chocolate hearts this morning and they’re all suspecting it’s the husband that gave her. Oh, isn’t that nice, lady 1 and her husband are already in their early 50’s but still treat each other like sweethearts. I like that Lady 1 never bragged about it and when asked, she just smiles and says she will keep the chocolate hearts for her to cherish.
Someone wanted to tell sex jokes but refrained himself because there were “young people” around, he said, looking at me. I told them I am married, so the sex-joker laughed and warmed himself up for the joke. Everyone prepared to hear it but lady 2 kept on sulking.
(man, I’ve completely forgotten about the jokes, oh my god. Now I can’t retell them, damn!)
Then we packed up and moved on. Dilapidated jeep huffed and buffed on the dry, barren trails of powdery limestone trails.
Lunch was practically the continuation of what went during the snacks break. Somebody talked about taking back gifts he gave to his former girlfriends and burning them. And then some told of their wedding day. Weddings during those days, they say are much simpler. Or maybe it is because everyone in the group were not trying to be somebody. Sex joker talked about religion. The group however, lingered on the topic about pre-marital sex and public display of affection. Each of them started contributing about catching high school students in uniform having sex or fondling each other at the back of the school yard. Our offices are adjacent to a high school.
This talk—downright criticizing these young people for fondling each other, I find rather hypocritical. Because when I was young, I had excess of hormones and I got rid of them by fondling. If fondling is wrong, then we should all be nuns and priests. And also, I want to say, that voyeurs do not have the right to criticize, because they are just that--voyeurs.
We broke off after lunch. The dilapidated jeep crew, me included, decided to go back to the office and leave the rest for the staff to continue. It was a hot day. Way, way different from the cold, wet weather 2 weeks ago and the heat was making me sleepy. We took the same route going back to office and I fell asleep from the constant rocking and the monotone drone of the engine. We’re already in the good roads when I woke up, not quite refreshed but at least less tired. It’s still hot, but we’ve got airconditioner in the office. And hot water for my afternoon coffee.
That’s something to look forward to.
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