We have a different arrangement at home now. PF's working somewhere far and will only be home on weekends. Meanwhile, i now work at the island and leaves the house early morning, comes home later than i usually did in my previous job. And the kid is turning four and has gotten used to the schedule and the old arrangement of his father working at home and me getting home early evening--or sometimes both his father and I, together--and for the next few days i would be repeatedly remind him of this new arrangement, over and over again, so he will not NOT want to go to sleep to wait for his father.
also, i will have to tell him that his parents will not be around for his birthday and that it is very okay because both his father and his mother grew up celebrating their birthdays in the absence of their parents. sometimes not even celebrating them, and yet they grew up to be good and respectful people. and i would need to tell him that it is okay to not have birthday bashes because people do not live for birthday bashes alone. and that on his birthday he must play and enjoy the time with his friends because time spent with friends is more important than a birthday bash. i will tell myself not have to worry about pleasing everyone on my kid's birthday.
Also, his nanny (here, Nanny 1) will be leaving our household this week. his teacher sent me message last week that my kid's nanny confided to her about her positive pregnancy test and that he will be leaving our household at the end of the month. She--the nanny--never confronted me though. she only sent a text last weekend while i was on my way home from work, that she will stop working by the end of the month because she wants to take a rest.
PF said, "Well, so now we know. If they're preggers, they say they will stop working because they need to rest."
The previous nanny which Nanny 1 replaced about 9 months ago also left our household 3 months pregnant. Previous Nanny and I come from the same town and last i heard she was in the hospital to have her baby treated from pneumonia. She was a smart nanny, the Previous Nanny. She has manners and my kid liked her alot. Nanny 1 on the other hand has a mental age close to that of a 12 year old. She has told me of her age the first time she arrive but i've forgotten. i guess she's just 19. and she's pregnant. and she her mental age is 12. i call her a retard behind her back. i am cruel, i know but i can't stand her lack of manners and her presumptuous attitude. she presumes she's part of the family and that she can just take part in any of our private conversations. she answers even if she is not the one being asked. i talk to my husband or my sister while we sit face to face and this retard Nanny 1, who is at the kitchen will suddenly blurt out an answer. to the question she is not asked. any worker must never to that to their boss. and i am the boss. and because of that, she is given the title of a household retard.
I corrected PF and told him: "No, Previous Nanny did not say she's gonna get some rest. She said she's leaving to come home, help and accompany her mother."
Previous Nanny's mother is a battered alcoholic wife of an alcoholic husband.
The person that will be replacing Nanny 1 will be somebody of menopausal age. PF said so. He saw her already.
So for few months i would have to live with this. I have nobody to talk about alot of things when i get home. In the office i still sometimes forget. I tend to summarize and outline the things i am going to talk about when i get home only to remember that PF will not be there. Oh it is sad because i cannot tell him about this new story i read. or my newfound great finds on the net. so i have to get used to that and learn to tell ANIMATED stories about my day to my kid instead.
yes, arrangements.
we got to have them sometimes.
FIN.
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